The Messy Mum Virtual Assistant
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I Thought I Was Just Being Helpful I never used to call it people pleasing. I called it helping, being nice, doing my bit. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with ADHD and started falling down that classic research rabbit hole that I realised what it really was: a full-on, unfiltered need to say “yes”… Continue reading ADHD & People Pleasing: Why I Say Yes (Even When I Shouldn’t)
If you’re a mum reading this with a niggling gut feeling that something’s not quite right with your child, this is for you. I’ve been there. I am there. What started as small differences with my daughter in preschool. Not smiling on cue, clinging to one friend, not responding to her name. Grew into years-long… Continue reading When Your Gut Tells You Something’s Up: Our Journey Through the ADHD/Autism Maze
Let’s be real. Parenting, running a business, and trying to remember if I’ve actually eaten today are challenging tasks. Sometimes I wonder if I've just reheated my coffee 5 times. It is already a full-time mental load. Add in ADHD and dyslexia. Consider the general chaos of life. You’ve basically got a recipe for overwhelm… Continue reading How ChatGPT Helps My ADHD and Neurodivergent Brain (and Why I Think It’s a Game Changer)
Let’s just start with this, I’ve never really felt comfortable in my body. I know I’m not alone in that. It’s something that so many women and men experience. We often don't talk about it. But for me, the struggle with body image has always been tangled up with something else, ADHD. Growing up, I… Continue reading ADHD, Body Dysmorphia & Motherhood: Learning to Love the Skin I’m In
Can we just laugh at this AI images Arm placement ...hahaha... I used to fight my way out of everything. It was like a cat trapped in a bag, claws out and scrabbling at the sides. I did this even when I knew deep down I was in the wrong. If you told me I’d… Continue reading “It’s Okay to Be Wrong (Even If You Fought Like Hell to Be Right)”
ADHD and clutter. Two things that feel like they live hand-in-hand...especially when you’re a parent. For me, it’s not just about mess. It's not laziness. It’s dopamine, it’s survival, and honestly… It’s hope. We see something, and we think maybe this is the thing. The tool that finally helps us stay on top of cleaning.… Continue reading The Emotional Impact of Clutter on ADHD Families
Let’s talk bedrooms.....and not the Pinterest-perfect kind. I’m talking about the bedroom that somehow becomes the family dumping ground. It becomes a laundry hub and an unfinished DIY zone. It even turns into an emotional clutter monster. Sound familiar? Yeah. Me too. As a mum of four with ADHD, my bedroom is supposed to be… Continue reading ADHD-Proofing Your Home: Small Bedroom Changes That Make a Big Difference
Grief is never simple. But grieving with ADHD? That’s a whole different emotional rollercoaster. One that doesn’t always follow the usual track. I lost both my father and stepfather recently. My stepdad was there from when I was four. He walked me down the aisle. He celebrated every milestone. He loved my kids fiercely. Losing… Continue reading ADHD, Grief, and the Loss of a Father: When the Emotional Pot Overflows
How Toggl Helped Me Beat Task Overwhelm as an ADHDer and Virtual Assistant Working from home sounds dreamy, right? No commute, snacks on hand, stretchy pants for days. But if you’ve got ADHD like me, it can also be a total brain jungle. You might think writing a blog post will take 20 minutes. Suddenly,… Continue reading One app. Less overwhelm. More control
Juggling motherhood, executive dysfunction, and the fight to be understood. The Moment It Clicked I didn’t always know I had ADHD. In fact, it hit me during lockdown, one of those random garden chats while socially distancing. A neighbour talked about her adult daughter being diagnosed. I had that common reaction: “Wait, but she’s not… Continue reading Parenting with ADHD: When You Have the Diagnosis Too
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